What Can We Teach Our Kids?

One of the most important skills you need to continually develop in your career choice, whether it be a regular J-O-B or choosing to tap into your entrepreneurial heart dream is to watch who you surround yourself with. It's important that we teach try to teach these same skills to our children to help them be happier, more productive people throughout their school years and beyond. What do we want OUR future and THEIR future to be?

Jim Rohn (a tremendously successful motivational speaker

and personal development coach) says that it is far more important who you are becoming, than, what you are earning. Mr. Rohn goes so far as to say that you should work toward becoming a millionaire, not for the money, but because of whom you will become in achieving the goal. Greed is the most destructive motivation that a person can have. (borrowed from another site, http://www.livingsuccessfully.org)

I was surfin' the net for something else and I happened upon this SUPERB article about bullying. Since I definitely don't believe in coincidences (think I've said that many times before, huh?!), I do believe it was something that the Lord had me come across front and center. We usually associate bullying with children, thinking surely by the time people are into their, at least, 30s and 40s, people will have outgrown, matured, or somehow gotten past themselves and having to make others look bad to feel bad about themselves. Of course, the bullies are going to be one, if not the top group, you will definitely not want to surround yourself with. Is there a way to know or something to look for to know ahead of time whether or not someone(s) is/are a bully(ies) in disguise?

This article sheds some light on this issue. It all makes sense and definitely made me aware of some things that I didn't know about, as in

1) a very good precise definition of what a bully or bullying really is : What is bullying?Bullying is persistent unwelcome behaviour, mostly using unwarranted or invalid criticism, nit-picking, fault-finding, also exclusion, isolation, being singled out and treated differently, being shouted at, humiliated, excessive monitoring, having verbal and written warnings imposed, and much more. In the workplace, bullying usually focuses on distorted or fabricated allegations of underperformance

2) bullies don't take responsibilities for their actions, but try to blame the person(s) they are bullying for not taking responsibility

3) Bullying is an inefficient way of working, resulting in disenchantment, demoralisation, demotivation, disaffection, and alienation. Bullies run dysfunctional and inefficient organisations; staff turnover and sickness absence are high whilst morale, productivity and profitability are low. Prosperity is illusory and such organizations are a bad long-term investment. Projection and denial are hallmarks of the serial bully.

( I didn't even know there was such a thing as a SERIAL BULLY!)

View the site and LOTS more information to help with CHARACTER issues and issues of the HEART at

http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/bully.htm

... bullying comes down to these 2 things... what is your CHARACTER and what's in your HEART? what are you putting into your children's CHARACTER and their HEART ~ STEP UP BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE AND MAKE THE CHANGE... :o)

Probably aside from anything in the Bible, this particular quote by Jim Rohn is my favorite... LET'S BE THE LEADERS ARE KIDS AND OTHERS KIDS ARE CRYING OUT FOR!!

"The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not a bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly." ~ Jim Rohn